S has an opportunity to go to HK for a 6-month stint and we are considering if we should go along and if so, for how long. There are several combinations possible: (1) go along with him for 6 months; (2) go for one month and come back for another and then alternate between two cities this way; (3) go for 3 months and then come back for another 3 months. These combinations are based on some considerations which include my mother’s needs, L’s education, leaving my house empty and staying with S as a family.
(1) I guess the least disruption to S’s work will be for us to stay there for the entire 6 months period. But this will mean disruption to L’s enrichment and swim classes. Well, I suppose she can do similar classes in HK too. This also means that she will start her nursery one term late. After checking with her pre-school, they informed me that we have to pay for the term to secure her spot in class even though she will not be present in class for the first term. Another consideration for me is leaving the house empty for so long. Will all the electrical appliances still work after being “dormant” for so long? Hahaha, my sister said that I’m enslaving myself to my possessions.
(2) My mum adores L to the max and since my father’s passing, L has been her focus. We are conscious of the fact that she will miss L dearly if she doesn’t see her for 6 months. So we plan to ask her to come along with us. But my mum is a home person and to get her to uproot temporarily for 6 months is unthinkable. What maybe viable for her is the one month in HK and another in SG option.
(3) A hybrid option may also be viable so R can have our companion for 3 months non-stop and L can also start her nursery as planned. If my mum wishes to return to SG, either my siblings or myself can bring her back. So, as of now, this seems to be the most feasible option for all parties…unless S’s apartment is so tiny that it can’t house all of us. In which case, he will have to shuttle back as and when he can. So much for thinking ahead…hahaha!