L is usually a darling sweetheart who is loved by everyone she meets. But this day, she seemed to be a different person. She ran into the lift without waiting for me and when I admonished her, she did not ant to have any eye contact with me.
Before entering the house, I wanted to “settle the unfinished business” with her but she kept running away. To avoid creating a scene outside, I got her into the house to talk some sense into her. And it continues…
Not only did she run away from me, she kept humming tunes to “shut my voice” out. It was so annoying! When I held onto her, she even talked back at me! I couldn’t believe my ears and I was utterly shocked at her defiance. I smacked her hand twice but she didn’t seem to be afraid of the punishment. When it happened again, I smacked the back of her hand really hard and that’s when she started crying. I also then got to know that she lied to me regarding finishing the worksheet that I asked her to do the night before.
I was really disappointed and at the same time, furious. I threw the worksheets out of the front door and asked her to finish it outside before coming back in. She was wailing by then. I allowed her to come in but only at the doorstep. She had to finish it there. Let me qualify why I did what I did: I would be totally fine if she had told me that she needed more time to complete the worksheet. I got really upset cos of her lie and bad behavior. To me, that’s totally unacceptable.
When S came home at that time, he started another round of scolding and L, crying. Another punishment for her; she was not allowed to play with her toys until we said so. S also did not bring her out for a promised bus ride. He did not want to bring her out for dinner with my family and not allow her to sleep with us that night. Upon advice from my sister who’s a specialist in early childhood, we took her to dinner as that’s bonding time with family. We also allowed her to sleep with us cos we took the opportunity to revisit what happened that day and to “right” her from wrong.
Ever since L learned about iPad, iPhone and their marvelous fun apps, games and videos, she’s been uncontrollable in terms of limiting herself on its usage. Each time we asked her to stop, she would cry and create a scene. We tried the cold turkey treatment but it didn’t work.
It’s inevitable to shield L from electronic gadgets totally so the next best thing is to limit her exposure. S introduced this 10-minute timer concept and luckily L found it interesting and lapped onto it. Each time the timer goes off, she will excitedly return the iPad to us. It’s a funny sight and I hope that she keeps up with this good discipline. It really works. Try it!
It’s not once, not twice but quite a few times that kind souls in public transport gave up seat to me thinking that I’m pregnant. My post pregnancy wobbly blob is still very visible and I feel really embarrassed at first cos I’m no longer pregnant, just fat. I take great pains to explain to them that I don’t need the seat as I’m not pregnant and that I’ve just given birth. Usually they can’t hear me clearly cos of the noise level, so I’ll just accept their kind gesture. But deep down, I’m so sad that the stubborn bulge doesn’t seem to go down at all.
A visit to my Gynae got me even more discouraged. She said that breastfeeding doesn’t help to lose weight. It has to be constant workout especially targeting at the core area. I’m terribly disillusioned now and I’m really not sure how to get rid of the pseudo-5-months pregnant tummy.
It’s really different this time cos regardless of how much jamu massage, wrap n bind I did (I even ate less, exercised more etc), I still don’t seem to be able to slim down. I am running out of ideas already, short of going for a tummy tuck. Sigh! Will someone help me please??!!
Recently, L came up with new words on her own. She calls herself “Baga Baby” and us “Mangoon Mama” and “Mangoon Daddy”. I wonder how and where that came about and as her mum, I sure find it very cute. She certainly knows when to use it. For example, when I’m upset with her and disciplining her, she will say, “Okay, Mangoon Mama” or “I love you, Mangoon Mama”. My heart just melts and I want to hug and kiss her straight away but I have to control myself from doing so. Kids have this innate ability to read adults’ body language and respond accordingly. It’s simply amazing!
Today, L refused to leave the shop after I was done with shopping. She was so engrossed in playing with candy tins and simply refused to move her legs even for an inch. After coaxing her for a few minutes, she still did not budge. I tried lifting her and carrying her out of the shop but I could sense that she was about to let out her famous shriek. I quickly put her back down again. Then I tried another tactic, which was to ask her to say goodbye to the cashier who was politely entertaining her. That worked, thank goodness! We finally managed to leave the shop peacefully.
And when we got to the car, I carried her into her car seat as usual. She twisted her way out of my grip and sat herself onto the passenger seat. Despite multiple coaxing, she did not move at all. As I was on my own, I knew that I had to get her back onto her car seat before driving back. I went to the other side of the car and tried to carry her out. The amount of strength this little one has is really amazing. I was not able to carry her out safely short of dragging her out. I had to resort to enticing her with her favourite Elmo video before she willingly went back to her car seat. I think this is the start of the terrible twos.
Does it happen to all toddlers? L is making her desires heard in a more obvious way nowadays. Between S and I, I am more of a disciplinarian by nature. However, when it comes to L, it seems that S is much better at it as I tend to give in to her. I’m not sure how effective it is though as S tries to reason it out with her. With her tender age, it’s not easy for her to understand reasoning. My way of dealing with it is to distract her with other interesting items before taking it away from her. So far it works fine.